I always knew that silence was golden, of the lambs and can be broken, however, I had never realized that it could become extinct.This is a realization that I came to during a moment of silence I shared here with myself last night. I decided that the rainy weather, Christmas lights and an unfinished best seller needed more of my attention than the TV. I sat here in complete peace and quiet reading my book curled up under a blanket when it hit me! Actually, she hit me! Audrey kicked me so hard my belly jumped! That baby, who's sounds are muffled by amniotic fluid and my uterus wasn't having any of this silence!
With each passing paragraph I found her movements to be deliberate and pretty well timed if you ask me. I started thinking, "oh man, this is it, 97 more days and this quiet time will never happen again!". It brought a tiny tear to my eye. I got up and walked into the bedroom, turned on the light which startled the cat, and peered into that empty crib. It was so quiet, I got chills. I looked at the cat curled up on the bed, she looked back at me with one eye open and I said to her, "this is it kiddo, enjoy it while you can, because silence is about to become extinct".
With that being said I headed back the couch, sat the book aside and turned the TV back on.
An over-exaggerated tale of Pregnancy and the "Mom's Club"
Being pregnant has opened my eyes to a disturbing fact, women are cutthroat when it comes to reproduction. When I first announced that I was pregnant with my first child, my friends were elated to say the least.
My "Mom" friends near and far were squealing, dancing around and crying tears of joy. I was in sheer bliss! I felt like I was on top of the world, I was finally "in" their world, I was so happy ! Things were perfect until I started being asked the one question whos answer can make or break you in the world of moms..... "have you had any morning sickness?". Ok, before I go on I need to explain a few things about Moms and morning sickness.....
Women who have had children belong to the most elite club ever. More elite than the Masons and more ruthless than the Hells Angels. Unless you are a mom you really have no significance to these women. You will never truly know what stress, pain and being exhausted really is until you're a Mom.
It can be a hard club to get into, but just because you become pregnant, doesnt mean that you are "in". You aren't really in until you answer "yes" the question, "have you had morning sickness". Answering yes guarantees you a solid place in their elite circle, answering "no" puts you in a not so favorable position in the club......
You see most women experience morning sickness during pregnancy. Some experience it in the first trimester and others have it all the way through, the entire nine months. Its a test of endurance and the more you vomit the higher up in the ranks you are in the "Moms Club".
Answering "no" to the morning sickness question puts you through a sort of hazing period before you are able to be a member of the club. No matter what though, you will never really be one of the "elite" if you havent puked. You will always be a minion of sorts.
Back to my answer to this dreaded question.....it was "No". And thats where it all began. Everyday was met with, "have you gotten sick yet?" and "Are you sure you're pregnant?". It was constant and every time I said, "no I feel fine" and "yes, I am pregnant", I saw them grow more and more angry, jealous in a way. It was scary.
This kicked off the hazing period of my pregnancy. Old wives tails about pregnancy are abundant, and you will hear them all if its looking like you are having a "perfect" pregnancy. Its a scare tactic. Its a way for the women who were miserable while pregnant to get even with the few of us who feel great during pregnancy. Its their way of taking the place of emisis.
The only way to arm yourself against this form of reproductive terrorism is to keep yourself well informed. READ PEOPLE!!! And when I say read, I dont mean look stuff up on the Internet, I mean open up a book!
The more you educate yourself about pregnancy and your symptoms of pregnancy, the less of an effect these far fetched tales of terror will effect you. But if you find yourself actually believing that your baby is going to be hairy just because you had heartburn, then you are way too far gone. You have been defeated.
So here I am bopping through pregnancy without any vomiting.....and they all think that my pregnancy is "easy". Ok, so vomiting isnt the only thing that makes pregnancy miserable, however it seems to be the only thing that can trump any other miserable symptom of pregnancy.
Any complaint I have had has been met with "Oh you think thats bad, just wait until...". Yep, my personal favorite, no level of misery is never enough. Its a cut throat competition out there. Its ache vs. ach, hemorrhoid vs hemorrhoid, and kankle vs kankle.
Theres no sharing or discussing anything to do with pregnancy without most if, not all of the members you know throwing in some epic horror story to top your mention of a spider vein. I find this rude and irritating to say the least. Well let me tell ya, if you havent had morning sickness then you've already been beaten. You could have gained 50 pounds more than all of your friends and had hemorrhoids the size of grapefruits....you will always be beaten with the "well at least you didnt puke for 6 months" maneuver. ARRRG!
Now don't get me wrong. Not all "Mom's" you know will turn on you because you arent miserable and puking. But just beware....the jealouse ones are out there. They are in your family, your group of friends and maybe even standing next to you in the produce isle.
So here I am, almost 7 months pregnant and I have made it through the hazing process. I dont know why, but it seems as if they have finally let me in. I armed my self with knowlege and refused to allow them to bully me with their horror stories or competitive bantor.
Its funny how a majority of your adult life is spent trying to fit in with elite groups of adults. Its almost like we become kids again. When we are single we arent accepted socially by the "Married Club", and the "Married Club" isnt nearly as elite as the "Married with Children Club". Well now that I am a memeber of the "Mom's Club" I am realizing that theres just one more club left to get into....the "Mom to multiple children" club.
Oh lord help us all.
So the moral of this story is; not puking during pregnancy is EPIC, just dont tell anyone.
My "Mom" friends near and far were squealing, dancing around and crying tears of joy. I was in sheer bliss! I felt like I was on top of the world, I was finally "in" their world, I was so happy ! Things were perfect until I started being asked the one question whos answer can make or break you in the world of moms..... "have you had any morning sickness?". Ok, before I go on I need to explain a few things about Moms and morning sickness.....
Women who have had children belong to the most elite club ever. More elite than the Masons and more ruthless than the Hells Angels. Unless you are a mom you really have no significance to these women. You will never truly know what stress, pain and being exhausted really is until you're a Mom.
It can be a hard club to get into, but just because you become pregnant, doesnt mean that you are "in". You aren't really in until you answer "yes" the question, "have you had morning sickness". Answering yes guarantees you a solid place in their elite circle, answering "no" puts you in a not so favorable position in the club......
You see most women experience morning sickness during pregnancy. Some experience it in the first trimester and others have it all the way through, the entire nine months. Its a test of endurance and the more you vomit the higher up in the ranks you are in the "Moms Club".
Answering "no" to the morning sickness question puts you through a sort of hazing period before you are able to be a member of the club. No matter what though, you will never really be one of the "elite" if you havent puked. You will always be a minion of sorts.
Back to my answer to this dreaded question.....it was "No". And thats where it all began. Everyday was met with, "have you gotten sick yet?" and "Are you sure you're pregnant?". It was constant and every time I said, "no I feel fine" and "yes, I am pregnant", I saw them grow more and more angry, jealous in a way. It was scary.
This kicked off the hazing period of my pregnancy. Old wives tails about pregnancy are abundant, and you will hear them all if its looking like you are having a "perfect" pregnancy. Its a scare tactic. Its a way for the women who were miserable while pregnant to get even with the few of us who feel great during pregnancy. Its their way of taking the place of emisis.
The only way to arm yourself against this form of reproductive terrorism is to keep yourself well informed. READ PEOPLE!!! And when I say read, I dont mean look stuff up on the Internet, I mean open up a book!
The more you educate yourself about pregnancy and your symptoms of pregnancy, the less of an effect these far fetched tales of terror will effect you. But if you find yourself actually believing that your baby is going to be hairy just because you had heartburn, then you are way too far gone. You have been defeated.
So here I am bopping through pregnancy without any vomiting.....and they all think that my pregnancy is "easy". Ok, so vomiting isnt the only thing that makes pregnancy miserable, however it seems to be the only thing that can trump any other miserable symptom of pregnancy.
Any complaint I have had has been met with "Oh you think thats bad, just wait until...". Yep, my personal favorite, no level of misery is never enough. Its a cut throat competition out there. Its ache vs. ach, hemorrhoid vs hemorrhoid, and kankle vs kankle.
Theres no sharing or discussing anything to do with pregnancy without most if, not all of the members you know throwing in some epic horror story to top your mention of a spider vein. I find this rude and irritating to say the least. Well let me tell ya, if you havent had morning sickness then you've already been beaten. You could have gained 50 pounds more than all of your friends and had hemorrhoids the size of grapefruits....you will always be beaten with the "well at least you didnt puke for 6 months" maneuver. ARRRG!
Now don't get me wrong. Not all "Mom's" you know will turn on you because you arent miserable and puking. But just beware....the jealouse ones are out there. They are in your family, your group of friends and maybe even standing next to you in the produce isle.
So here I am, almost 7 months pregnant and I have made it through the hazing process. I dont know why, but it seems as if they have finally let me in. I armed my self with knowlege and refused to allow them to bully me with their horror stories or competitive bantor.
Its funny how a majority of your adult life is spent trying to fit in with elite groups of adults. Its almost like we become kids again. When we are single we arent accepted socially by the "Married Club", and the "Married Club" isnt nearly as elite as the "Married with Children Club". Well now that I am a memeber of the "Mom's Club" I am realizing that theres just one more club left to get into....the "Mom to multiple children" club.
Oh lord help us all.
So the moral of this story is; not puking during pregnancy is EPIC, just dont tell anyone.
Oh Baby!
Well I created this blog a while ago and never did much with it. I never really felt that I had much to talk about. My mother had just passed away and I had just gotten married. My heart and mind were mixing signals. Happy one minute and sobbing uncontrollably the next. I felt too vulnerable to wear my heart on my sleeve and bare all on a blog. Well things have changed.
I have slowly begun the healing process. I will never be ok with the fact that my mother isn't here. However, I know that I still have a life to live and I need to live it to its fullest. Which brings me to an announcement to anyone that happens upon this little blog....
I'M GONNA BE A MAMA! My new life has just begun!
Yep, after 2 years of trying my husband and I have been blessed with a healthy pregnancy. We are having a girl, named Audrey Jeane! She is due on March 17 2010.
I feel like I have sprung to life again! I feel like i am the first flower to pop through the melting snow! Damn that was bad, lol. I do though, I feel that way. I am awake and ready to take on the world again. My daughter and my husband are my life and my drive.
It sure does feel good. Everything is going well with the pregnancy. I am 6 months in and I am doing great! I have quite a huge belly. I don't know if I am going to give birth to a baby or a litter of puppies. I mean seriously, I am bigger than a river barge..lol.
Being that this is my first pregnancy, you'd think that I would be nervous and paranoid about EVERYTHING! But I'm not. Believe it or not I am not scared one bit. You know why? Education....research, reading and not listening to any of my friends.
I have been reading a lot of books about pregnancy and eating right during pregnancy. Arming myself with knowledge has been my best defense against the barrage of old wives tales that keep coming at me. I can not even begin to explain to you the level of insanity that occurs with some women when they talk about pregnancy and childbirth.
I have been keeping my friends and family updated on my Facebook. Whenever I post a new belly bump photo or change my status update to "wow, heartburn sucks", I instantly get inundated with weird comments. "Are you sure you're not having twins?", "Heartburn means that your baby is going to be born with a lot of hair", and my personal favorite, "If you carry high its a girl", or is it "if you carry low its a girl"?
It is amazing how peoples actual experiences turn into fractured fairy tales. I was also told that once that once I become a mother I will become a know it all as well. Really? Is that true?? Nope, not gonna happen. I know that I don't know it all and that I never will. However I will keep reading and educating myself so I never fall victim to scary stories from self proclaimed know it alls ;)
Wow, I sure did blob my heart out tonight. I will do this more. It feels good.
I have slowly begun the healing process. I will never be ok with the fact that my mother isn't here. However, I know that I still have a life to live and I need to live it to its fullest. Which brings me to an announcement to anyone that happens upon this little blog....
I'M GONNA BE A MAMA! My new life has just begun!
Yep, after 2 years of trying my husband and I have been blessed with a healthy pregnancy. We are having a girl, named Audrey Jeane! She is due on March 17 2010.
I feel like I have sprung to life again! I feel like i am the first flower to pop through the melting snow! Damn that was bad, lol. I do though, I feel that way. I am awake and ready to take on the world again. My daughter and my husband are my life and my drive.
It sure does feel good. Everything is going well with the pregnancy. I am 6 months in and I am doing great! I have quite a huge belly. I don't know if I am going to give birth to a baby or a litter of puppies. I mean seriously, I am bigger than a river barge..lol.
Being that this is my first pregnancy, you'd think that I would be nervous and paranoid about EVERYTHING! But I'm not. Believe it or not I am not scared one bit. You know why? Education....research, reading and not listening to any of my friends.
I have been reading a lot of books about pregnancy and eating right during pregnancy. Arming myself with knowledge has been my best defense against the barrage of old wives tales that keep coming at me. I can not even begin to explain to you the level of insanity that occurs with some women when they talk about pregnancy and childbirth.
I have been keeping my friends and family updated on my Facebook. Whenever I post a new belly bump photo or change my status update to "wow, heartburn sucks", I instantly get inundated with weird comments. "Are you sure you're not having twins?", "Heartburn means that your baby is going to be born with a lot of hair", and my personal favorite, "If you carry high its a girl", or is it "if you carry low its a girl"?
It is amazing how peoples actual experiences turn into fractured fairy tales. I was also told that once that once I become a mother I will become a know it all as well. Really? Is that true?? Nope, not gonna happen. I know that I don't know it all and that I never will. However I will keep reading and educating myself so I never fall victim to scary stories from self proclaimed know it alls ;)
Wow, I sure did blob my heart out tonight. I will do this more. It feels good.
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